Most parents are shocked when they find out that their child is gay. They cannot correctly respond to new information, do not understand what their child needs, what needs to be said as words of support.
Immediately it is worth noting that you do not need to swear, break off relationships and be disappointed in the future of your son or daughter. Your children are individuals, people isolated from you, who have the right to their own decisions, orientation, political views, and so on.
But if you are still worried about the orientation of your child, then we recommend that you look at the behavior of the child, which may indicate the first signs of non-traditional orientation.
What exactly is worth paying attention to, we will consider in more detail in the article.
10. The boy communicates with girls
Sometimes boys prefer a company of girls in communication, rather than peers of their gender. Moreover, communication with girls does not cross the brink of friendship: the boy does not flirt, does not hold hands with the opposite sex, does not try to "play" in relationships.
In such situations, the boy is interested only in communication, he supports with the girls a discussion of any topics, not necessarily typical of girls.
Friendly contact with the opposite sex does not affect the appearance of boy’s mannerism, it’s easier for him to find friends among girls, staying away from boys for a certain time.
9. Musical preferences
Psychologists say that in many respects the personality of the child is manifested in musical preferences. For example, during hormonal explosions, boys begin to listen to heavy and aggressive music, thereby sublimating their explosive, due to hormones, character.
If a teenage boy prefers calm and melodic music, then this may indicate his soft character or unconventional orientation, since listening to quiet music in hormonal explosions is not typical for teenage guys.
8. Excessive aggression
Often teenagers hide their sensitivity and vulnerability behind their threatening behavior. In this case, aggression acts as a kind of protection, because often aggressive, especially in relation to homosexual teenagers, children themselves are latent homosexuals.
In turn, excessive tenderness, openness and the complete absence of aggression indicate the gentle nature of the boy and can serve as a sign of his unconventional sexual orientation.
7. Taste preferences
Eating preferences may also indicate a child’s unconventional orientation. Most often, boys like to eat junk food: hamburgers, chips, energy and all kinds of fast food.
This is a direct reaction to parental prohibitions about such nutrition, which makes the boy show character and male stamina, going against the parental opinion.
If the boy voluntarily prefers food that is healthy for his figure and health, has breakfast with oatmeal, and uses fruit as a snack, then this may indicate an increased level of the female gentle hormone in the child.
6. Love of art
Gay people often choose creative professions. You must admit that among hairdressers, designers or fashion designers you can often find gay men.
But even without reference to work, such people love art, often visit galleries, art exhibitions or conservatories.
5. Shyness in dealing with your gender
If a boy in himself is not shy in all life situations, and is shy only in the society of his peers of his gender, then this may be a sign of non-traditional orientation. Similarly, girls are embarrassed in front of the boys they like.
The embarrassment and unwillingness to discuss with friends the usual "male topics", such as sexual experience and girls, indicates a possible problem, because such an interest in adult topics is normal for teenage boys.
4. Communication with other children
Pay attention to the environment with which the child communicates. We already wrote that often children with non-traditional orientation are not friends with children of their gender, as they are embarrassed.
But if, nevertheless, the boy is friends not only with girls, but also with other boys, it is likely that these boys are also of non-traditional sexual orientation. Especially if they are peculiar to the points listed in the article.
3. Family inferiority
Fear of an incomplete family exists not only for the reason that it is financially difficult for one parent to raise a child, but also because the lack of upbringing of a father or mother can affect the orientation of the child and his self-determination.
If the boy does not have a worthy example of masculine behavior before his eyes, then this can serve to form feminine traits in the child. It is very important for boys to have a man in front of their eyes, whom the child will respect and take an example from him.
In this case, the psyche of the child, preferences and behavior are formed correctly. Do not be afraid if your son grows up without a father for some reason: a grandfather, uncle or a good family friend can serve as a male example.
2. Changing clothes
Children may show traits that are not characteristic of their gender. For example, in men, feminine abnormalities can be observed. They are manifested in the desire of the boy to dress in women's clothing, apply makeup on his face or walk in heels.
With age, these signs affect the voice, facial expressions, gestures, making the boy, as they say, mannered.
Often at carnival parties, people of non-traditional orientation “as a joke” dress up in clothes of the opposite sex.
1. Parental love
By about 5 years old, the boy understands the impossibility of an erotic relationship with his mother. He is separated from his parents, psychologically begins to perceive himself as an independent person and begins to search for "his" woman, seeing in front of him an example of parental relations.
Often in such a period, boys begin to play in love, that is, pull the pigtails and hold on to the handle with a girl from one kindergarten group.
But sometimes excessive mother's love, hugs, sleep in one bed and attachment to the child can sharply affect the future life of the boy. The fact is that denying the need for distance between the mother and son can stimulate the boy’s sexuality, which the mother may not even notice.
Therefore, in the head of the child, the fact that it is impossible to have an erotic connection with the mother is superimposed on the emerging sexual stimulation. This can provoke anxiety and a ban on sex with girls, causing increased sexual interest in people of their gender.